Ladies, talk to me; how’s everything with your man, your boothang, your love interest, your male friend? What does he call you? How does it make you feel? Stop and think, Ladies! Don’t dare let a man define you. I am sick of hearing women say stupid things like “No, you don’t want to be his bottom bitch; you want to be his main chick.” Really? What happened to simple titles like “girlfriend,” “boyfriend,” “wife,” and “husband”?
Personally, I take offense to any title that has the term “bitch” in it. I do not see how that can be a compliment to you at all. Think about it, will he take you to his parents or other respected members of his family and say, “Hey, everyone, this is my Down Bitch/Bottom Bitch/Main Bitch/Ride or Die Bitch”? Um, no, I doubt that scenario will play out. But if it ever did happen that way, you should run, unless you really are bottom of the sea material, and have absolutely no respect for yourself.
Also, Ladies, it’s time to stop tiptoeing around this issue. If you roll with other women who are devaluing themselves in this manner by allowing some guy to label them, SPEAK UP. Help your fellow sisters out, educate them as to how belittling and degrading the labels are.
I am too convinced that the only way mannish boys are able to continue with such labels are because of equally immature girls who have yet to understand, love, value, and define themselves! But I’m done with this topic.
Check out an article by “Black Girls are Easy” for more on this topic (*warning: IT IS HIGHLY EXPLICIT…YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED*)
Wait, one last thing: Ladies, those reactionary/retaliating labels you have for men aren’t helpful, either.
Here’s a definition from Wikipedia of “bottom bitch” (Wikipedia, though? yes, because it shows how pervasive this mess has become):
A bottom girl, bottom woman or bottom bitch, is a prostitute who sits atop the hierarchy of prostitutes working for a particular pimp. A bottom girl is usually the prostitute who has been with the pimp the longest and consistently makes the most money. Being the bottom girl gives the prostitute status and power over the other women working for her pimp; however, the bottom girl also bears many responsibilities. … she is “the least paid on the team, but the one who works the hardest.”
Get it together, y’all!
~Peace, Growth, and Prosperity~