Are Black women really angry or is it just a stereotype that many of us are falling for? There are a lot of reasons Black women could be angry:
- lower pay than their counterparts
- gender/race bias and discrimination
- limited availability in the dating pool
- the list very well could go on.
Yet, the point is are Black women really angry, or is it that their strength is misunderstood as anger?
I am attaching here a notice from Hip Hop Feminist Joan Morgan, and also there is an interesting article from Washington Post on the upside of anger in the workforce for Black women.
To Whom it May Concern:
For reasons of emotional health and overall sanity, I’ve retired from being a STRONGBLACKWOMAN. Since I’ve been acting like a SBW for most of my life, I’ve taken the liberty of drafting a re-orientation memo.
To the white folks I work with–the fake “Fine” and compulsory smile? Gone. Deaded. Don’t look for it. From now on, when asked “How are you?” I’m going to tell you the truth—so if you really don’t give a sh*t, do yourself a favor and don’t ask. Some days I really am an evil black woman.
To the folks in my life who are used to calling me at all hours of the A.M. or P.M. and repeatedly dumping their emotional refuse — start looking for a therapist. I apologize for not telling you before that I’m not the “strongest sista” you know, that my sh*t is not “always so d**n together.” (Then again you would have known if you’d interjected an occasional, “Hey, girl, how you doing?” in your tirades.) There are days my shit is downright raggedy and on those days I’m not feeling you. I’ve officially given myself permission to ignore all twenty of your messages on my machine, especially the ones telling me you feel abandoned.
To the brothers trying to kick it. Stop. Let me save you some time. If my financial independence, education, ambition, looks, or basic determination to survive makes you question whether or not you’d have anything to give such a STRONGBLACKWOMAN, don’t bother. Return to the valley of the chickenheads, cuz I don’t f**k wit’ that anymore. SBWs do not have needs. I got plenty— and I’ll gladly tell them to you while I’m running your bathwater, or you’re rubbing me down with oil, or we’re playing tag with our tongues. Bring it on if, and only if, you really believe you deserve me.
And while I’m at it, mad love for my peeps who didn’t need anything of this, who knew I was never a STRONGBLACKWOMAN—just fronting. Thanks for sticking around while I was tripping. Y’all know sh*t goes. We get there in the by and by.
Peace & Love
(When Chickenheads Come Home to Roost, Joan Morgan)
An Upside to the ‘Angry Black Woman’ Stereotype?— Washington Post
- The problem with myths of female strength (bluemilk.wordpress.com)
- A Letter For the single black women (straightnocut.wordpress.com)
- Why Does Society Hate Black Women?? (bonitakeme.wordpress.com)
- Do We Want Our Brown Eyes Blue? Some Thoughts on Black Women and Racial Identity Revisited Part 2 (bernadettewordsmithhawkes.wordpress.com)
- The Black Woman In America (theobamacrat.com)