Ooo, baby, just to hear you speak
Makes me argue just to see
How much you’re in love with me
See, like a queen, a queen upon her throne
–Lauryn Hill “Sweetest Thing”
The above lyrics come from Her Majesty, Lauryn Hill; “Sweetest Thing” is a beautiful song, which I adore. However, I must not have fully listened to the lyrics, or at the very least, I missed the line “Makes me argue just to see/ how much you’re in love with me.” (*Record Scratch!*)
Whoa, wait a minute. That is NOT how you express or get someone else to express their love for you. It’s not even how you judge someone’s love for you! And you know what else, that is not the model of a Queen–it’s actually a very ratchet thing to do.
But it is the phenomenon of our day: Women and Men are going home (which is supposed to be a place of refuge from the external chaos) and creating dramatic scenes just to get passionate (anger is a form of passion) responses from their mate/significant other/spouse, etc. Is this not a problem??
Personally, I am a very peaceful person on the home front (now this doesn’t solely mean the house you share with your lover; I am using it in the sense of “home is where the heart is,” i.e., my boo is my home). Why in the world would I want to have a petty argument with someone I love, or care deeply for?
You’ll mess around and start a petty argument with me and it could be our last (LOL!). If you get my anger from 10 to 100, I will be mad for real while you’re playing; no amounts of sorry will work. But all you wanted was for me to show you that I love you? BS!
Ladies and gentlemen, stop with the petty arguments, please. Just tell your spouse what you need in order to feel the love, geez. Go easy on the drama. … Also, I don’t care who the song artist is, stop believing all that craziness. Fights and screams do not equate love. Yeah, I said it!
Peace, Blessings, & Growth!